I can’t take you seriously when you keep defaulting to men as tops and women as subs. It can be reversed. Two men. Two women. Trans* and genderqueer folk get left out in the cold in your rhetoric. As usual. You’re the one making fucked up assumptions that reinforce strict binaries and don’t give any credit to sexual liberation and sexual negotiation. You deny anyone but men any position of power and only understand power on a superficial level. You are mansplainng AND talkng out of your ass. Whose not feminist again?It’s hard to take you seriously because you use misogynistic language, you think your opinion is inherently superior to everyone else’s (based on your little sidebar note) and you clearly don’t understand the nuances to a Dom/sub relationship. How about you go educate yourself on the dynamics of Dom/sub relationships, what power exchange means and that D/s relationships are not strictly about sex, subjugation & “getting fucked like a bitch” to use your oh so eloquent wording. Then come back and try to have this discussion. If you can’t do that, don’t bother coming back.Can you be a bottom and be a feminist?
Your thoughts? More after this panel.
Nope. No real feminist is a bottom. Enjoying sexual subjugation to a male without claiming a position that puts you in control for your own physiological sake is internalizing patriarchy… or being a…
Dom and sub relationships are about power fetishization and roleplay. Fuck your feel good ‘trust’ bullshit you tell yourselves. You don’t need to hurt people to exhibit trust. One side of the relationship, whether you like it or not, enjoys being subjugated to the other. The other side, whether you like it or not, enjoys the sensation of power and control.
I agree that from a detached point of view, both sides are equally powerless and pathetic. A dom in a D/s relationship is really subjugated to the sub. He’s the one that has the job of ensuring that she feels degraded and abused enough to be kept around, the sub being the masochist and he being the side that administers pain. He is the one that’s pleasing the sub, but that’s irrelevant since not everything out there is a D/s relationship and this isn’t the sub’s perspective. It’s the detached critic’s perspective. We’re discussing whether or not the psyche of a sub is healthy to the feminist cause.
The sub’s purpose and pleasure is to suffer to please another. Masochism runs counter to feminism, whether you like it or not, the idea of finding it pleasurable to be submitted to the desires of another is as anti-feminist as it gets. It’s relishing in the fact that you’re less than another. It’s relishing in the fact that you’re there to serve another. It’s to act out to please someone else. Anyone, and I repeat, anyone that finds it pleasurable to serve others is destined to be a slave.
That shit worse than patriarchy.
That shit is the woman, happy, in the kitchen being beat every night
being beat every night and OK’aying that shit lol
That shit is a woman accepting patriarchy
That shit is a woman bent over and taking it like a bitch lol
That shit is a woman that not only accepts, but relishes in the fact that men are superior lol
That shit is a woman going, I accept my place as a creature put on earth to serve males lol
Y’all gonna call that feminist?
Ain’t that some shit? lol
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[Image description: Background is 8 piece pie style color split with black and blue alternating. Forground is a photo of a parrotfish. Top text reads “Identify as”. Bottom text reads “Complicated”. End description.]
Q: Why’d you go and have to make things so complicated? A-yeah, Yeah, ye-
A: Because they are. Now, STFU!](http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m3ywns04A01qkevm9o1_400.jpg)
[Image description: Background is 8 piece pie style color split with black and blue alternating. Forground is a photo of a parrotfish. Top text reads “Identify as”. Bottom text reads “Complicated”. End description.]
Q: Why’d you go and have to make things so complicated? A-yeah, Yeah, ye-
A: Because they are. Now, STFU!
WHOA WHOA WHOA THERE. HOLD THE FUCKING PHONE. WHAT IS GOING ON HERE?? IS THAT ROB? OUR BRO? IN A FUCKING SKIRT AND BRA AND SHIT? YOU FUCKING BET IT IS.
DOES THIS MEAN YOU SHOULD STOP USING MALE PRONOUNS, BECAUSE I’VE TAKEN PART IN SOMETHING STEREOTYPICALLY FEMALE? FUCK NO! YOU SHOULD RESPECT MY PRONOUN CHOICE NO MATTER HOW I AM PRESENTING MYSELF, UNTIL I SPECIFICALLY ASK YOU TO CHANGE PRONOUNS!
DOES THIS MEAN, BECAUSE I AM (FAAB)ULOUS AND PARTAKING IN STEREOTYPICALLY FEMALE ACTIVITY, THAT I AM FEMALE? DOES IT MEAN I AM REJECTING MY GENDERQUEERITY OR MAKING MY GENDER IDENTITY ILLEGITIMATE? FUCK NO! IT MEANS I WANNA WEAR A FUCKING SKIRT, SON!
DOES THIS MEAN YOU HAVE TO BE ABLE TO FEEL COMFORTABLE IN A SKIRT BECAUSE CLOTHES ARE GENDERLESS? FUCK NO! IF IT ISN’T FOR YOU, IT ISN’T FOR YOU!
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My enjoyment of videogames, math, and science DO NOT MAKE ME ANY LESS OF A WOMAN. Stop being sexist.
Especially since almost all of my cis woman friends are into video games, D&D, programing, science, or all the above!
Unpopular opinion.
Sexuality (and gender) is not not a choice. Sure, for most people it probably isn’t, but some people can and do consciously decide who they are attracted to, what gender they are, or who they fall in love with. If some have the potential to dramatically control our body temperatures, some obviously have the potential to control aspects of their psychology like sexuality and gender to varying extents.
(via cephalopuddle)
Oi! Oi! Destroy!
Reminds me of Dyke March, Chicago. So excited about this year’s.
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Mythbusters: Men Vs. Women
So without seeing the show I have already busted all the myths: Sex (inb4 lack of knowledge about intersex) and gender are social constructs and thus are not subject to empirical testing.
MYTH BUSTED!
Did I do it right?
(also I’m always dubious to the rigor on these shows. Especially ones that have a love affair with neurobiology that does not take into account the plasticity of the brain i.e. physical effects of socialization… just to begin with.)
Hope you don’t mind- I drew this to sell at an upcoming fair, and I thought it was appropriate for your blog! Oh, and I’m ToxicNotebook.
Absolutely FABULOUS. I love it.
“As a femme what you are is not fake but profoundly made up.” ~ Amber Hollibaugh.
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This owns. (Taken with instagram)
My old boss tried to use the restroom argument with me once. For people who try to use this as another example of why trans* people create all of the problems of the world, it can really be THIS simple.
Simple as that.
[Image description: Photograph of a sign hanging on a wall outside, presumably, public restrooms. The sign is black with white writing, and reads:
“RESTROOMS
Equipped with Urinals [arrow pointing to the left]
Equipped with Sanitary Bins [arrow pointing to the right]”. End description.]
In my experience in both set of gendered bathrooms this is in fact the only difference.](http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m2fo63BGl91qilf48o1_500.jpg)
This owns. (Taken with instagram)
My old boss tried to use the restroom argument with me once. For people who try to use this as another example of why trans* people create all of the problems of the world, it can really be THIS simple.
Simple as that.
[Image description: Photograph of a sign hanging on a wall outside, presumably, public restrooms. The sign is black with white writing, and reads:
“RESTROOMS
Equipped with Urinals [arrow pointing to the left]
Equipped with Sanitary Bins [arrow pointing to the right]”. End description.]
In my experience in both set of gendered bathrooms this is in fact the only difference.
For anyone who only sees gender and sex in black and white, here’s proof by the lovely humon that nature is just as fluid with representations of gender and sex as we are.
love this. The cuttlefish mating one blew my mind!
these need to be turned into pamphlets and handed out to people.
for serious.
SERIOUS.
I love cuttlefish mating. Brilliant. @ksej and I are more in the position of the seahorses, though.
This is so adorable.
Fuzzy might like this if she’s yet to see it.
ya know me well :>
It’s Humon, but it’s fascinating. … And adorable.
I like this. I like this a lot.
Researching goes a long way and can make all the difference in a good and frankly very cutely interesting image :T <3
Very cool.
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I love this comic, and I’ve been thinking about it a lot over the last few weeks…
Well done.
That awkward moment when rad fems are indistinguishable from the same people who want to police the bodies of all women. But hey, they’re just talking about universal truths! That’s completely different… Oh, wait.
Beyond Binary: Genderqueer and Sexually Fluid Speculative Fiction is an anthology that will be released by Lethe Press in May 2012. Here is an io9 article about the anthology. I am super excited about this anthology and what it means for increasing the visibility of gender variant individuals.
First, Take Me There: Trans and Genderqueer Erotica showed how queer bodies can be erotic without falling to body-negative and cissexist fetishizing tropes. Now a visible and gender inclusive science fiction anthology is going to be published? Fantastic! Books like these mean so much for getting images and depictions of gender variant folk out there and accessible to many. This is especially important for those who need them the most, gender-variant people.
I find Science Fiction of particular importance to my life. Many trans* people I know grew up in nerdy/sci-fi communities. If I had something like this growing up perhaps I would not have felt as alone and confused. I already used my interest in transhumanism as a proxy for my gender issues. I hated my body and often dreamed of technological solutions to having to deal with my body. However, I did not yet have the gender context (beyond undirected feelings of shame).
Something like this would have probably been very appealing and helpful to me then. In any case, I am getting this as soon as it comes out!
This looks excellent. Brit Mandelo’s also written a series of articles called “Queering SF“ that are really cool too.
Ooooo nice. Just read the article on polyamoury in speculative fiction and particularly liked the focus on YA fiction and discovering the POVs sexuality, something I have not thought about much.
Though while reading The Hunger Games recently I’ll have to admit I wanted to say to Katniss: why do you have to choose? At least this was early on in the series when either relationship may have had a chance of working (I’m on team Katniss, not team Gale or Peeta). Still there were moments where there could have been more of a discussion on loving more than one person. There was some, but I think it could have been flashed out a lot more.
Definitely will have to read through more of Brit Mandelo’s archive. Thanks!
Beyond Binary: Genderqueer and Sexually Fluid Speculative Fiction is an anthology that will be released by Lethe Press in May 2012. Here is an io9 article about the anthology. I am super excited about this anthology and what it means for increasing the visibility of gender variant individuals.
First, Take Me There: Trans and Genderqueer Erotica showed how queer bodies can be erotic without falling to body-negative and cissexist fetishizing tropes. Now a visible and gender inclusive science fiction anthology is going to be published? Fantastic! Books like these mean so much for getting images and depictions of gender variant folk out there and accessible to many. This is especially important for those who need them the most, gender-variant people.
I find Science Fiction of particular importance to my life. Many trans* people I know grew up in nerdy/sci-fi communities. If I had something like this growing up perhaps I would not have felt as alone and confused. I already used my interest in transhumanism as a proxy for my gender issues. I hated my body and often dreamed of technological solutions to having to deal with my body. However, I did not yet have the gender context (beyond undirected feelings of shame).
Something like this would have probably been very appealing and helpful to me then. In any case, I am getting this as soon as it comes out!
The above article is an update. Her mother went to appeal to keep her out of the psychiatric ward and lost. She will be institutionalized because of her expression of her gender. She will be held until she conforms to male gender and then released to foster care, not her mother who was supporting her.
Please, if you haven’t signed the petition, sign it, reblog it, ask your friends to sign it. We’ve managed to get 40K signatures for a pageant model, we’ve only gotten 11K for a little girl about to have her life ruined. Lets get on the ball and spread the word.
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My blog is sometimes my escape and sometimes my personal soapbox for all my feels. Enjoy!
